breaking up is hard to do.

we might as well be strangers, keane.

i've been thinking a lot about breakups lately,
with some of my friends in the throws of the pain it causes.

when you're with someone for a long time,
certain feelings tend to procure, plans tend to be made
and whether or not it's the "real deal" crosses your mind.
for some, the level of intimacy increases with each step
and for others, it drives them apart. relationships end and hearts are broken.
feelings are hurt, harsh words are said and doors are slammed.
they exit each other's lives and that's the end of it.

each person goes down their separate path, not looking back.
but for the rare few of us, we stand there, awe-stricken. confused, broken, lost.
as you can tell, i've found myself in that situation a time or two.

and what really plagues me: where does the love go?
how can you go from spending special moments together,
loving each other, sharing in hopes and dreams
to suddenly becoming strangers.
cut film, roll credits, end.

it seems so.. sudden.
but maybe, for some relationships, that's the only way to heal.
the only way to get out of a bad situation. tear off that band-aid and run.
maybe for others, it's just a business transaction-
swipe the card, relieve me of my debt, i'm out the door.

to me, it all seems very passe. an easy out.
most of us are looking for a goodbye as meaningful as the relationship.
regardless there is one fact we can agree upon:
breaking up is hard to do.
hard to go through. hard to heal from.
there's no way around the pain, no way under it or above it.
just through it. 

my breakup advice?
you just have to keep going, take deep breaths.
and hold tight to the fact that each day gets easier.
surround yourself with people who will listen, bring you chocolate,
listen to you bitch, drink shot for shot with you and let you be sad mad happy crazy.



"we're strangers in an empty space.. it's easier to be apart,
we might as well, we might as well, we might as well be strangers."